While ignorance seems bliss, it's also the road to stagnation and a life lived by others.

Waking up (aka entering the world of self development) is like shining a light on a messy room. You see all the things that need fixing, which can be overwhelming.

But here's the good news.

Waking up is the essential first step toward cleaning out that room.

It's the foundation for living your full potential.

The obvious next question:

> how to change these self-sabotage patterns?

Here's the 3-step process I've developed.

1 > wake up

The first step is awareness. Start paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Notice the patterns that keep you stuck.

• Journal: Write down your thoughts and feelings to identify recurring themes.
• Practice mindfulness: Pay attention to the present moment without judgment. Notice when self-sabotaging thoughts and emotions arise.
• Seek feedback: Ask trusted friends, family members, or mentors for their honest perspectives on your behavior.

2 > choose

This is where the real work begins. Making a conscious decision to change requires courage. It means facing the fear of the unknown and stepping outside your comfort zone.

• Challenge limiting beliefs: Identify the negative beliefs holding you back and replace them with empowering affirmations.
• Cultivate self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when you make mistakes.
• Set boundaries: Learn to say "no" to things that drain your energy or don't align with your values.

3 > dare to be great

This is about embracing your full potential, living authentically, and pursuing your dreams with passion and purpose.

• Set realistic goals: Break down your larger goals into smaller, achievable steps.
• Visualize success: Imagine yourself achieving your goals and feeling the positive emotions associated with them.
• Build a supportive network: Surround yourself with people who believe in you and encourage your growth.
• Take action: Don't let fear hold you back. Take consistent steps towards your goals, even if they're small.

Overcoming self-sabotage is not about achieving perfection; it's about waking up and staying in motion.

It's about choosing to believe in your worthiness and taking steps towards the life in which you dare to be great.