Trauma is a complex and often misunderstood concept. It's easy to fall into the trap of either justifying our experiences or minimizing them in comparison to others. However, trauma comes in many forms and degrees, and it's important to recognize that any experience that leaves a lasting negative impact on our well-being can be considered traumatic.

Children, in particular, are vulnerable to developing traumas, even in loving and supportive environments. Their developing brains can misinterpret events and form conclusions that shape their worldview and behavior in adulthood. These ingrained patterns can lead to adopting self-sabotage archetypes and hinder personal growth.

the scale of trauma

The term 'trauma' encompasses a wide range of experiences, from major events to seemingly minor ones. It's helpful to understand the different types of trauma to better recognize their impact:

• PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder): This type of trauma often comes from a single, overwhelming event, causing flashbacks, nightmares, and intense emotional reactions.

• External trauma: This includes experiences like abuse, neglect, or accidents, which can make it difficult to form healthy relationships and trust others. E.g. growing up with a parent suffering from depression made it unpredictable when you would(n't) receive care.

• Ego trauma: This type of trauma arises from internalized beliefs and conclusions formed in childhood, often related to feelings of inadequacy or unworthiness. E.g. growing up with very busy supportive loving parents led you to believe you had to be 'the best' to receive attention.

• Cross-generational trauma: This refers to the transmission of trauma from one generation to the next, often through unspoken family patterns and behaviors. E.g. your (grand)parents fled the country because of a war.

It's crucial to remember that trauma is not a sign of weakness or a reason for shame. It's a natural response to overwhelming or often recurring experiences. Seeking help is a sign of strength.

recognizing and healing from trauma

It's essential to acknowledge that trauma exists in various forms and degrees. It's not about comparing pain or minimizing experiences. Every trauma deserves recognition, regardless of its origin or perceived severity.

If you suspect you're struggling with the effects of trauma, seeking professional help can be a crucial step toward healing and getting at the steering wheel of your life.